A lot of people ask me how to find the right mentor.
So let me give you an analogy to help you find the right mentor for you…
Imagine that you want to build your dream home.
Would you just start slapping boards together and hope a house shows up?
Of course not.
Because that’s a recipe for disaster, right?
Yet that’s what many business owners are doing…
Working hard every day…
Without a blueprint, formula, or framework…
Slapping boards together, and hoping a house shows up.
Meanwhile, it’s pretty drafty in there.
(as in, you’re working way too hard for not enough RESULTS)
Now when you find the right mentor, it’s like hiring an architect for your business.
Because a mentor is someone who can help you reduce mistakes and reach your goals a lot faster and easier than if you just keep working on your own.
So here are 5 important tips to help you find the right mentor so you can reach your goals faster, easier, with fewer mistakes and less time & effort…
1. Start with Your Big Dream.
What exactly do you want to accomplish?
Do you want to add an additional $10,000.00 per month to your business…
Get more clients…
Be on TV…
Get your book published?
I’ve helped my Coaching Clients achieve all of these things… and much more.
Bottom line: If you don’t know what you want, it’s awfully hard to find someone to help you get it.
2. Ask yourself: “Who can help me get it?”
I like to answer the question “Who?” before “How?”
You see, most people go right to the “How”…
…and sometimes that’s fine.
However, sometimes you need to bring in the right Who before you get to the How.
3. Answer The 3 Crucial Mentorship Questions.
There are only 3 crucial questions you should ask when it comes to choosing the right mentor for you.
Here they are…
a. Is this person where you want to be?
This is the easy one.
Because you can’t open Facebook without seeing the latest “hot shot” posing in front of “his” shiny sports car or (cough, rented) helicopter saying…
“Hey, look at all my cool STUFF! Aren’t I awesome?”
Yeah dude, you’re awesome.
So clearly, you’re successful (or, more accurately, you have the APPEARANCE of success).
Now, however, we come to the second, and by far more important question…
b. Do they have a SYSTEM to help you get where YOU want to go?
You see, there are plenty of successful people out there.
But can they actually SHOW you what they did…
…Break it down into a step-by-step, proven framework or repeatable formula…
…so you can get where YOU want to go?
This is what I call the difference between “personality-driven success” and “System-Driven Success.”
Here’s how you can tell the difference…
Is this person constantly talking about THEIR success?
Or do they talk about their CLIENTS’ success?
That’s one reason I’d rather brag about my Clients’ success.
Because if all this person talks about is their own success…
I’m left to wonder how I’m supposed to become them.
So now we’re down to 1 out of 100.
Yet when you ask this third question, now you’re down to 1 out of 1,000…
c. Do they ACTUALLY HELP YOU get where you want to go?
There’s people who are successful (that’s the easy part).
There are a few people who have a SYSTEM that can be repeated and replicated (this is not easy at all – hence, 1 out of 100).
However, after being a mentor in this industry for more than two decades, I’ve come to realize that there’s almost nobody who will ACTUALLY HELP YOU get where you want to go.
And yet, that’s where all the power is.
That’s where all the RESULTS are.
And that’s why if you want to stop wasting time and money on “false mentors”, it’s critical that you ask those 3 crucial questions before you start working with a mentor.
4. Study their Client Success Stories.
As I talked about in the previous step, who has this mentor helped?
Can you relate to them?
If you can relate to the mentor’s Client Success Stories, there’s a good chance that mentor can help you, too (provided you do the work, of course).
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5. Make a decision and go for it.
Goethe wrote: “Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”
Often, the cost of not taking action is far greater than the investment to do something.
So once you’ve found the right mentor for you, don’t wait for the timing to be “right.”
Because it will never be the “right” time.
There will always be lots of things going on – the world is full of distractions.
So trust your gut, make your decision, and go for it.
Would you like to talk to me or one of my Coaches to see if we can help you get where you want to go faster, easier, and with less human effort?
Book a Breakthrough Session with me or one of my Coaches right here…
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I believe in you!
Noah St. John, Author The Book of Afformations®
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