The 1 Thing You Should NEVER Do When Setting Goals

We humans are goal-oriented beings. We think about something we want, and then take steps to get it.

Whether it’s a car, a house, a spouse, or a ham sandwich for lunch (sometimes all in the same day!), we are constantly setting goals and taking steps to achieve them.

However, there’s one counterintuitive thing you should NEVER do when setting goals.

Whether your goals are for health, wealth, love, or happiness . . .

When you set your goals, don’t look in the mirror.


Because when you look in the mirror, what do you see?

You see yourself, naturally.

But what do you REALLY see?

For most of us, we see our own faults, insecurities, failures, shortcomings, what’s WRONG with us, what we think we CAN’T do, what we tell ourselves we SHOULDN’T do.


Stop setting your goals by looking in the mirror.

I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t feel good about yourself. Of course you should.

What I am saying is that rather than looking in the mirror to see what you’re capable of, look to your Future Self.

This is the habit I call Stepping Into Your Best Future.

The mirror shows you what you ARE – or, more precisely, what you THINK you are (which are usually very different things).

We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, but underestimate what we can do in a year.

We tend to overestimate others and underestimate ourselves.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “I can’t do it because…”

What’s hard is to keep working, even when the results aren’t what you expected or wanted.

Your Future Self is calling.

Will you answer?

Noah’s Note: When you set your goals, don’t look in the mirror. Look to your Future Self. #boom #limitless

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2017-07-18T10:48:20+00:00 By |7 Comments


  1. Elcio October 31, 2015 at 11:07 am - Reply

    How is The best Way to go on The process Of “Stepping-on-my-future-self ” ?

  2. Dean Goranson October 31, 2015 at 11:51 am - Reply

    Hi Noah

    We also carry that mirror in our head and heart as well. Think of the self critical condition.

  3. Norie Huddle October 31, 2015 at 1:12 pm - Reply

    Hi, Noah! Thanks so much for all your great work! I so agree with this post about anchoring your future self. I’m wondering if you have experimented with doing this in the first person as well as in the second person and third person. I.e., speaking as yourself (in the future), to yourself (as a second party, also in the future) and about yourself (as a third party, also in the future) … ?

    For several decades, as I’ve been “inventing” and “reinventing” my life, the first question I ask myself (and clients) fairly regularly is, “Imagine that you’re standing at the end of your life and you feel deeply and profoundly satisfied and at peace. YOU DID IT! You did everything you came here to this Earth to do and you feel SO GOOD. What does it look (feel, sound) like? What kind of person have you become and what have you accomplished?”

    This is the first question in a series I use. I’d be very interested in how this might fit with your “future you” work, if indeed it does.

    Thanks again for everything you’re doing!

    Blessings, Norie

    • Noah St. John November 5, 2015 at 6:01 pm - Reply

      Yes, I have experimented with the first, second, and third person. It really comes down to personal preference. Keep me posted and keep Afforming!

  4. Mira Jane November 17, 2015 at 5:30 am - Reply

    Hi Noah,

    This is interesting I’ll will try it, we should always think of our future. 😀

  5. Kevin November 17, 2015 at 6:10 am - Reply

    Hi Noah,

    I agree with you Noah. We must not look at the things that will stop us reaching our goals rather you should focus on the things that needs to finish. And see things as if it’s there already.

  6. Shanice Anderson October 3, 2016 at 11:29 am - Reply

    Hi Noah,

    I’m a 22 year old girl from Suriname (South America) I just started reading your book The secret code of success and I have to say that your book is amazing! It really helped me and thank you for that! I signed up for your online class on thursday, Oct 6 2016 and I’m looking forward to it 🙂

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