The #1 Best Way to Overcome Frustration

Are you feeling frustrated at work? At home? In your life?

We’ve all experienced frustration, whether it’s from a co-worker who gets on your nerves…

That family member who pushes your buttons…

The fact that you just can’t lose those last 10 pounds…

Or simply the fact that life isn’t giving you the results you want!

Whether you’re feeling frustrated at work, at home, or in life, remember this one simple thing. . .

You can’t control outcomes, but you can always control your ACTIONS.

Think about that thing, situation or person that’s frustrating you.

WHY is it frustrating you?

Because you aren’t getting the results (outcomes) you want.

You’re not losing the weight.

That person isn’t behaving the way you want.

You’re not making the money or getting the promotion or attention or fame you want.

But the problem is that you can’t control any of those things.

You can, however, control your ACTIONS.

For example, my mother was constantly frustrated because her father (my grandfather) was always in a bad mood.

He was basically a grumpy sourpuss all of his life.

But that wasn’t the real problem.

The real problem was that my mother kept expecting him to change.

For instance, at every family function, my mother would get angry and frustrated because my grandfather was, um, himself.

I kept telling her over and over, “Mom, you do realize that he’s 90 years old and is not going to change?”

And she would shake her head and say, “I know, I know…”

And go on doing the exact same thing (i.e., expecting him to change).

You see the problem here?

What control did my mother have over my grandfather’s behavior?

Exactly NONE.

However, she had TOTAL control over her OWN behavior.

But, because she tried to control someone ELSE’S behavior, she ended up frustrated – literally, until the day my grandfather died.

My advice to you (like it was to her). . .

Stop trying to control outcomes like other people’s behavior.

Instead, focus on the ACTIONS you can take today, right now – even if it’s just taking a deep breath and saying some empowering Afformations.

Do this, and your stress level will drop instantly.

Doesn’t that sound like a better way to live?

Noah’s Note: You can’t control outcomes, but you can always control your ACTIONS. #afformations #powerhabits.

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2017-07-18T10:39:14+00:00 By |15 Comments


  1. Zahida November 11, 2015 at 11:42 am - Reply

    Noah you are superb.

    • Zahida November 11, 2015 at 11:43 am - Reply

      Noah you are superb

  2. Robert November 11, 2015 at 3:35 pm - Reply

    Hey Noah. I agree with your comments. In 2011 I was suddenly dumped by my fiancee. Afterwards I couldn’t sleep for 3 months (literally) because I couldn’t change her mind. Though my feelings for her didn’t change I was able to change my reaction to being dumped and that’s made a big difference.

  3. Lynne Q November 17, 2015 at 4:10 am - Reply

    Totally can relate to this. I have been stressing over how my husband is not as affectionate / showy as I’d like him to be ( like me ) and because of that “expectation” I always felt unloved. But when I removed the expectation, it’s like every act of love is so grand and screams i love you to me more than words can say.

    • Noah St. John November 17, 2015 at 10:27 pm - Reply

      That’s fantastic Lynne – I’m proud of you!

  4. Leo November 17, 2015 at 5:42 am - Reply

    Hey Noah, this article is very true, we cannot change other people, but we can control our actions so we can accept the truth. In that way we cannot be frustrated and live a happy life.

  5. Alex November 17, 2015 at 6:05 am - Reply

    Hi Noah,

    You can’t control what will happen in your life because you’re making your own story.

  6. Abigail Abia November 17, 2015 at 6:39 am - Reply

    Thank you Noah for this article, this article is a life changing attitude 🙂

    • Noah St. John November 17, 2015 at 10:26 pm - Reply

      You’re most welcome Abigail.

  7. Maddie Caoimhe November 17, 2015 at 6:48 am - Reply

    Hi noah thank you for changing our thought, for changing our world. 🙂 Godbless

    • Noah St. John November 17, 2015 at 10:25 pm - Reply

      You bet Maddie – It’s my honor.

  8. Mads November 20, 2015 at 2:12 am - Reply

    Yes it does! Truly great advice, stop trying to control others’ behaviour and focus on your own behaviour and actions.

  9. sherill November 23, 2015 at 7:41 am - Reply

    I totally agree, we should focus on our actions and take control of our own behavior. Having a good attitude over things that we cannot control will make our lives a lot easier and happier. Thanks again Noah for a great reminder.

  10. Saitama December 9, 2015 at 11:26 pm - Reply

    Great article Noah, I deal with stress everyday of my life. Thanks to this i can lower my stress level and live a more fulfilling life.

  11. sherill February 5, 2016 at 4:17 am - Reply

    Hi Noah, I totally agree with you, the more we try to control some situations in our life, the more it affects us. Being aware that we can control our attitude and the way we deal with this situations will change our perspectives in life. Thanks for sharing this great reminder with us.

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